When we ignore our personal values and rely instead on external validation to confirm our worth as humans, we tend to struggle with all kinds of dissatisfaction, depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. This is why it's so important to explicitly clarify your values and then engage in behaviors that align with those values. I hope … Continue reading How to discover your personal values to improve life satisfaction
When you open up in therapy, it can be magical. It can lead to change, growth, insight, recovery, and healing. But being able to go “deeper” than surface-level topics can be challenging, especially if you’ve been hurt, dismissed, or embarrassed in the past, or if you’re having a hard time coming to terms with a … Continue reading 7 Tips for Opening Up in Therapy
A couple weeks back, I shared my #2018resolution to work harder to demystify mental health treatment. One of the things that makes therapy so complex is that it's designed to treat somewhat abstract human experiences, so it's tricky to point to exactly what works and what doesn't. Because no two humans are exactly the same, … Continue reading Demystifying Mental Health Treatment: What to do if you’re feeling “stuck” in therapy
It’s the start of a new year, and while you don’t need the calendar to tell you when to make a change, the whole #resolutions thing makes it a convenient time for many to reflect on goals for themselves in the upcoming year and start taking action steps. My #resolution is to do my part … Continue reading Demystifying Mental Health Treatment: How long will I need therapy?
Reading tends to be very “all or nothing” for me—I’m either totally consumed, turning pages for hours on end and ignoring the world around me and internal cues for food or sleep until I’m done, or I’m noncommittal, absent-mindedly skimming paragraphs until I inevitably abandon it to collect dust on my nightstand with all of … Continue reading Book Review: “I’m Fine… and Other Lies” by Whitney Cummings
One of the most common questions I’m asked by therapy and testing clients is “Am I normal?” It’s a fair question, and it makes sense that some people view psychologists as the people trained to give a solid answer. After all, one of the core educational requirements of anyone seeking a graduate degree in psychology … Continue reading Am I “Normal?”
I feel such a mixture of puzzlement and sadness whenever I think about our country's minimization of mental healthcare. It's funny (but no one's really laughing here...) because so many of us are self-proclaimed "health nuts" who value wellness and want to live happy, fulfilling lives. However, the reality is that many people, somewhere along the way … Continue reading If you had a weird rash, you’d go see a dermatologist… right?!
Do you ever enjoy something so much, even though it simultaneously has components of it that SUCK? Sometimes there's just no way around it. That's how I feel about writing... and about doing therapy. As a human being, I’ve learned time and time again that it’s both terrifying and profoundly rewarding to expose one’s most authentic self. Sharing … Continue reading Being Vulnerable (yuuuughh) AKA Why I’m starting to blog
Mindfulness means purposefully paying attention- without judgment- to what's happening in the present moment, according to Jon Kabat-Zinn, a psychologist who developed Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction. What I love about this definition is that it encompasses what Kabat-Zinn calls the full catastrophe of life. We tend to focus on the stuff we want to change, ruminate on the … Continue reading Welcome to my practice!