Accepting “clean pain” and letting go of “dirty pain”

A few winters ago, I broke my toe when I rammed it into the corner of my couch. I knew I had injured it, but promptly went into denial. I ignored it for a few days, walking on it, exercising, jamming my feet into snow boots (gotta love Chicago winters), till the swelling and pain … Continue reading Accepting “clean pain” and letting go of “dirty pain”

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Want to enjoy your life more? Think about death.

I recently saw an exhibit at the Field Museum called “Evolving Planet” that completely blew my mind. The display takes the visitor through four billion years of life on Earth, starting with single-celled organisms and moving all the way up through the evolution of every species till present-day humans. I knew from biology classes over … Continue reading Want to enjoy your life more? Think about death.

Demystifying Mental Health Treatment: What to do if you’re feeling “stuck” in therapy

A couple weeks back, I shared my #2018resolution to work harder to demystify mental health treatment. One of the things that makes therapy so complex is that it's designed to treat somewhat abstract human experiences, so it's tricky to point to exactly what works and what doesn't.  Because no two humans are exactly the same, … Continue reading Demystifying Mental Health Treatment: What to do if you’re feeling “stuck” in therapy

Demystifying Mental Health Treatment: How long will I need therapy?

It’s the start of a new year, and while you don’t need the calendar to tell you when to make a change, the whole #resolutions thing makes it a convenient time for many to reflect on goals for themselves in the upcoming year and start taking action steps. My #resolution is to do my part … Continue reading Demystifying Mental Health Treatment: How long will I need therapy?

Am I “Normal?”

One of the most common questions I’m asked by therapy and testing clients is “Am I normal?” It’s a fair question, and it makes sense that some people view psychologists as the people trained to give a solid answer. After all, one of the core educational requirements of anyone seeking a graduate degree in psychology … Continue reading Am I “Normal?”

The “Inner Detective” inside of each woman

The other morning, I decided to cut through a nearby park on my way home from a workout. As I was strolling along, a man approached, clearly staring me up and down. When we crossed paths, he said to me, “You’ve got the face of an angel!” I smiled politely and he continued on, “Do you … Continue reading The “Inner Detective” inside of each woman

Why is language so trippy?

Have you ever done that thing where you start saying a word over and over and over again until it sounds sort of singsongy and you forget what it even means? When I was little, I used to do this a lot  with random "simple" words, like “awhile” and “because.” Yes, I was apparently born a word … Continue reading Why is language so trippy?

If you had a weird rash, you’d go see a dermatologist… right?!

I feel such a mixture of puzzlement and sadness whenever I think about our country's minimization of mental healthcare.  It's funny (but no one's really laughing here...) because so many of us are self-proclaimed "health nuts" who value wellness and want to live happy, fulfilling lives.  However, the reality is that many people, somewhere along the way … Continue reading If you had a weird rash, you’d go see a dermatologist… right?!

Welcome to my practice!

Mindfulness means purposefully paying attention- without judgment- to what's happening in the present moment, according to Jon Kabat-Zinn, a psychologist who developed Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction.  What I love about this definition is that it encompasses what Kabat-Zinn calls the full catastrophe of life. We tend to focus on the stuff we want to change, ruminate on the … Continue reading Welcome to my practice!